We are a community that fights everyday for equality. We post references on our Facebooks, Twitter, etc. We tell our friends how horrible inequality is. However, we segregate each other in our own community. Look at the state of "gay" right now. There's segregation of race in social groups, segregation of race in clubs and an inherint prejudice against certain social classes and races. I wouldn't write about this if I didn't see it so often these days. I see more inequality against each other than I do with the heterosexual community and the homosexual community. We are slowly segregating our community and if you haven't noticed it, you're not very observant.
The first step to changing something is recognizing the problem. Once we recognize the problem we have to "want" to change it. There's no overnight fix for this problem. People have to start recognizing and doing something to change it! If we don't do something to change this problem we're going to have a community in peril. Write about this, tell your friends, speak up and do something to change it!!!
Gay Bullies
I just dealt with a particurally harsh gay bully that was regularly verbally abusing a friend of mine. If my friend didn't notice it, I certainly did. And there's nothing more upsetting to me than a bully in general but a bully in our own community verbally harassing and putting down a friend of mine is something I will not stand for. This pathetic ex-porn star crossed the line with me and my friend. I do not take kindly to bullies. And while I'm compelled to give the name, out of decency I will not. I will say that if you see a bully in our own community do NOT hesitate to speak up and say something to them. Bullies are for a lack of better words are extremely insecure and vulnerable people. They protect themselves by bringing those around them down so that they become more vulnerable than the individual bullying. It's a rather vicious cycle that sees no end until they can recognize the harm they cause to others. If you see a bully or hear one, SAY SOMETHING!
Please protect your own kind and recognize the faults in our own community.
-Chris Ryan
4 comments:
Segregation is a natural occurrence in any community. It's difficult to say if one community is worse than another but intuitively you would expect the gay community to be a bit more accepting.
Bullies/giant assholes are a different story. I generally consider myself to be pretty nice but if anyone is insulting or attacking one of my friends it is an invitation to be destroyed. This almost makes me sound like a bully but the key difference is that I would never say or do something cruel unprovoked. Anyone that would simply makes things worse for everyone around them and deserves to be taken down. Had one particularly memorable instance of this in college... he promptly transferred schools.
Dinner's on me if you can guess who ;)
Thank you for your comment. Segregation is a natural occurrence in any community, that's for certain. It just seems we would be a bit more accepting, however I think we're far less accepting than most other communities to be honest.
As for bullying, when we bully our own for being less masculine or just because we feel we want to bring others down to lift our own self-esteems we are in turn destroying ourselves slowly but surely.
I have no idea who it is! I'd love a hint!
Think it depends on what communities you have experience with but it's tough to judge at this stage as my experience in the gay community is minimal. Unfortunately I have seen quite a bit of segregation and prejudice from people who are more than smart enough to know better.
Agreed any bully is on a path to self destruction and unfortunately they attempt to destroy a number of others along the way.
Hint: I've had very few physical altercations but in another I evaded a potential mugging by throwing one of the assailants off a bridge.
I experience segregation from the gays constantly because I am HIV+. I have never seen a group of people rally together for a cause yet on an individual level will have nothing to do with someone with HIV. Ironic, don't you think?
It's interesting to me to witness the self-proclaimed hierarchy within the gay community yet most don't have any validity to act this way. The bullying just stems from an insecurity and the pecking order makes the bully feel, temporarily, better.
The more we put a stop to this demeaning, degrading, self-loathing lifestyle, the more we will come together to to make everyone on every level equally welcomed.
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